Here are some of the ways you can help when you recognize the warning signs of abuse:

• Talk to her about what you see and assure her that you are concerned. Tell her you believe her and that it is not her fault.

• Encourage her not to confront her partner if she is planning to leave. Her safety must be protected.

• Offer to provide childcare while she seeks help.

• Offer your home as a safe haven to her, her children and pets. If she accepts your offer, do not let her partner in.

• Encourage her to pack a small bag with important items and keep it stored at your home in case she needs it.

• Know that you or she can call the Assaulted Women’s Helpline, your local shelter, or, in an emergency, the police.

• Assure her she can talk to you any time.

• Don’t become angry or frustrated with her decisions. It is mportant to understand that she may be afraid or not ready to take the
next steps.

• Try to understand why she might be having difficulty getting help. She may feel ashamed.

• Offer to go with her if she needs additional information or support.

• If she has children, let her know gently that you are concerned about her and her children’s safety and emotional well-being.
She may be more willing to recognize her situation if she recognizes her children may also be in danger.