Unseen Impacts of Psychological Abuse in Today's Modern Relationships
Overview
Psychological abuse, often known as emotional abuse, one of the most often misunderstood forms of intimate partner violence, takes many forms—including manipulation, neglect, or criticism—often leaves deep latent scars on both victims & survivors. Although invisible, as opposed to physical abuse, such mental scars remain legitimate and lasting. The subtlety of emotional abuse causes hardships for victims/survivors in recognizing and naming their experiences, eroding their self-worth, and even leading them to question their own sanity. Raising awareness about emotional abuse today is crucial in helping us understand and acknowledge its profoundly damaging impact on victims/survivors and their intimate relationships.
Forms of Abuse
Research regarding women’s experiences of emotional abuse in intimate relationships identified three main kinds of abusers: Dominant Controllers, Silent Controllers, and Manipulating Controllers. Each type employs varying tactics to exert control over their partner. Dominant Controllers combine overt threats and criticism, Silent Controllers neglect and emotionally disconnect themselves, and Manipulating Controllers subtly mask their controlling behavior with affectionate terms, resulting in the victim/survivor feeling inadequate and constantly struggling to meet unattainable standards.
Major Causes & Impacts
Patriarchal societal norms often exacerbate psychological abuse, as people who feel entitled to control their partners may view such behavior as ordinary or justified, making it even harder for victims/survivors to recognize or resist the abuse. Psychological abuse can lead to profound loneliness, both physically and mentally. Guilt and despair are also common, as victims/survivors internalize blame for their partner's actions. Over time, this abuse may erode victims/survivors self-esteem and identity, leaving them feeling worthless and unsure of who they are, which is why public education and awareness about psychological abuse and its emotional impact is important.
Recovery
Healing from psychological abuse in intimate relationships is a long and challenging process, but still, remains far from impossible: it begins with the victims/survivors being able to recognize the abuse and reclaim their strength through “disattachment," which helps reverse the effects of Stockholm syndrome—through detaching, helping rebuild confidence and self-worth. Additionally, education and awareness raising about subtle forms of psychological abuse, is key to understanding the differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships. Lastly, if you believe you might be experiencing psychological abuse, it's important to remember that seeking help is okay. Emotional scars, though invisible, can have lasting effects. Reaching out for support is a crucial step toward healing.
Resources
Stockholm Syndrome: Held Hostage by the One You Love
The Association between Technology-Mediated Intimate Partner Violence and Stockholm Syndrome
Women's Experience of Emotional Abuse in Intimate Relationships
